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Question: Where do some people share their innermost thoughts?

Answer: The “hair chair.”

There’s a transformation that occurs in hair stylists’ and barbers’ swivel chairs. Men and women sink into them and confidential chatter begins.

Counseling offices have walls, doors, and white noise machines. High priority is placed on confidentiality. The “hair chair,”...

Get Up Earlier Than You Want To

I am writing this from whence I speak. Jumping out of a warm bed on a cold morning at 5:30 was not the plan. It’s funny how things work out sometimes.

First of all, I woke up from a dream that delivered insight about a real life situation. My inclination was to go back to sleep, but the night crew had other ideas.  When clien...

February 12, 2017

Success is difficult to achieve.  It doesn’t happen in an instant, despite the common myth of the overnight sensation.  It is a gradual track with many ups, downs, dips, dives, and hurdles.

Thinking differently can level the track and some hurdles are unavoidable, in fact, they are a necessity.  Here are 

17 hurdles, when you see them, j...

One “holiday freeze” is over.

Many people, reluctant to break up the family amid the hustle and bustle of the holiday season, postpone a relationship breakup until the new year. Amid resolutions to change and optimism about new beginnings, January traditionally sees a spike in both divorce filings and online dating sign-ups. “Out with the old, in with the...

September 8, 2015

 

 

Knowledge is a powerful resource for navigating life. We have endless internal dialogues that assist with interpretation of information and decision-making. Knowing why we think the way we think is the gold standard for healthy functioning. It affords us an opportunity to appreciate where we are in life and to choose where to go from there, a starting p...

 

 

 

You have taken an enormous step toward expanding your understanding of why you think and do what you do. Most people don’t stop to think about their operating systems until things go badly. It’s often when life gets acutely unbearable that they call a counselor. These words capture the essentials for successful outcomes in psychotherapy: trust, rapport...

 

Death is a part of life. Loss is all around us, but people struggle to know how to show sympathy and empathy, especially when it pertains to the death of a pet.

 

I opened my private psychotherapy practice 15 years ago. Back then I specialized in bereavement and worked with many children who had experienced significant loss. A seasoned colleague told me, “...

March 24, 2014

 

 

People who tell me they are in one-sided relationships often hear me say, “Oh! Love more, try harder?” It’s my way of validating a coping style often used by people when a relationship is not going well, because the other person takes but does not give.

 

These people often feel lonely or experience depression because the love they give is not recipr...

January 22, 2014

 

The phrase rolled off my tongue with an eerie familiarity. After a quick Google search, I knew why. While I had no recollection of the 1968 film by the same name, watching the first ten minutes gave me a quirky, 60‘s cultural context for “What’s so bad about feeling good?”

 

The movie portrayed the “true intellectuals” of the day, Beatniks, living in New Y...

 

I wish my father were here to face the music: to be held accountable for his rage-filled outbursts and stripped of the three belts he always had ready to unleash on me. As an adult, I also recognized my mother’s culpability in provoking his tirades and not protecting her children.

 

The Beatles released their hit song “Help!” in 1965. “Help me if you can....

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